The Finish Line in your Kingdom!

What a week in the Kingdom…This week was filled with incredible highs and lows. I felt like a really angry witch and then like Cinderella at the ball.  My prince though was the sight of my hard work coming together.  Finally! Then I was watching Bob Harper promote his new book and talked about the 80/20 rule.  Be strict 80% of the time and you will be ok.  The guy he was explaining this to said “8 steps forward 2 steps back and your still 6 steps ahead“.  I love that.  I always focus on the steps back. I guess I need to do the math.

I just finished “The Accidental Athlete”.  It’s about becoming an athlete at 43 and never looking back.  His focus is on setting goals in running and life and accomplishing them.  The part that grabbed me initially was how he set a goal to run three miles. He knew which house he had to get to for that goal.  It took him six months to get there.  Most people would say he failed at his goal for six months. But he felt every day he got a little closer to his goal.   After that accomplishment he started to run 5ks, then marathons, then duathlons and now he’s known worldwide as an expert on running.  Did I mention he was overweight, smoked and drank at the beginning of his journey?  HUGE obstacles.

He talks a lot about setting personal goals and not worrying about beating other people but making himself better.  I think that’s why I love to run.  My friends laugh when I say “I don’t care about my time. I’m not Kenyan, I’m never going to win.” But I finish and I love it.  My first race goal was to cross before they were taking the finish line down.  I now have my eyes on a half marathon.  I’m beating myself every time I go out there and don’t give up.  I work out in my race shirts, it reminds me of all the times I crossed the finish line and I work a little harder.  I have a friend that just started running.  She had a 5k on her goal board for three years, she checked that off her list last week.  Even though it wasn’t a work goal, it was an amazing personal achievement, it spills over.

I’ve been applying those principles to work and it’s paying off.  You’re reading this right?  So is some guy in Australia.  My blog finish line was Chicago and it became Israel, Germany and Spain!  More importantly, the research, practice and writing are making me better all around.  I guess I need bigger goals.

Work is like running, you are racing toward your own goals.  If you spend your time chasing someone else, you will lose.  Find your own finish line goal and train. Seek out your weakness and turn it around.  Work your mental muscles every day, read and keep up on your industry.  Take a rest day, you need time to recover.   Celebrate your accomplishments.  How many times have you crossed your personal  finish line?  How do you revisit those victories to keep you motivated? Be careful not to focus on the steps back, but the steps forward.  In this day and age, you can’t just sit back and coast.  Race to your finish line, do it at your own pace and enjoy the scenery on the way to victory!

What are your goals and how are you working to get there?

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Lessons from the King (my dad)!

Once Upon a Time there was a King who was also just a Dad…I thought I’d take this Father’s Day week and talk about lessons learned from my Dad!

Work Hard so you can play hard – My dad owned a roofing company. I can only think of a few worse jobs. It was hot, smelly and really hard work. But my dad always had a smile. It was especially bright at the end of the day for us. We were lucky that he couldn’t work in the dark. Nights, weekends and winters were for family and friends. Our home was the gathering place. I try to turn work off after a certain time and the weekends are just for us. If I have extra work, I do it when my son is sleeping.

Love should be fun – I am so blessed to know that my parents had an unbelievable love for each other. They showed affection and laughed all the time. He never walked past her without a kiss or a tap. At the age of 10 I rolled my eyes a lot. But it taught me what to look for in a husband and how I wanted my family to be.

Family is explosive sometimes – People who knew my parents reading this are going, yeah, what about the fights? Holy fights! No one in my family ever had an ulcer, because we held nothing in! Those fights taught me not to yell so loud to get my point across and to always say what is bothering you. Someone can’t change or fix a problem if they don’t know what’s upsetting you.

Love is unconditional – My dad was my step-dad. He loved me even though he didn’t have to. When I did things wrong, he didn’t push it off because I wasn’t his. He was my biggest fan at every spring show (I had no talent, trust me) and even came to watch me cheer at basketball games (even though I knew he just wanted to be watching the game). The lesson here was obvious, people aren’t perfect but you love and support them anyway.

When you need advice ask your Dad – My dad died a long time ago. Sometimes, I wonder what he would do in a tough situation. The lesson learned is to seek out advice from someone with experience. In our twenties we think we know everything, the older I get I realize the less I know.

So what does any of this have to do with HR? All these are lessons we can use in life and work. Work hard but have balance in your life and workplace. Work should be fun and it will be explosive. If you love what you do there will be ups and downs, but don’t toss in the towel when it’s hard. Work through it, find your passion and get rolling again. Seek out a mentor. We’ve all gone through rough times, find someone who will coach you through difficult times at work….Hey, it might even be your Dad you call!

Happy Father’s Day Everyone! What was the greatest lesson you learned from your Dad?

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